Hello, Ortando again. This entry is to announce the first of the Ortando Tribal Counsels to begin in Oregon. The group actually will begin with an informational session about ADHD/LD and how to access services. The actual Tribal Counsel will follow for 3 weekly sessions after that. The goals are to help individuals with AD/HD/LD to "learn how to be". Discussions are planned about Tribal protocols, then about cognitions, emotions and behaviors associated with successful living, with embracing one's AD/HD/LD. Probably as inportant as the information exchanged in the Counsel is the "emotional intelligence" training that will be part of the objectives of the group. The "Tribal Elders", those older experienced members with AD/HD/LD will offer their ideas and wisdom about how to be emotionally regulated in the light of having brains with AD/HD/LD toward reasonable and rational goals developed in one's enlightened self-interet. Projects for enhancing the lives of others will be part of the planning effort.
If there are any of you who would like to contribute thoughts, emotional content or behaviroal strategies to assist this effort please feel free to do so in reply to this blog. Ortando's Thoughts will keep you informed of progress and the learning curve associated with the Counsel. Remember, YOU can learn "How to Be" and you are alright. Ortando
Wednesday, October 28, 2009
Wednesday, October 7, 2009
Spud's comments
THIS Is a contribution from "SPUD" a follower of Ortando's Thoughts:
hello this is Spud. first time on this blog. I have been friends with Ortando and sokerbrain for some time now. I was reading about the tony robins thing and it reminded me about a time when I was in junior high and how I was a rather shy kid and how it really bummed me out that I had few friends (if any) and was VERY rarely included in any activities in school. I was "diagnosed" with ADD when i was in grade school because a teacher that didn't get along with me wanted me to be on drugs to get me to calm down and focus like the "other" kids. I was put on drugs a while later when my mom was heavily pressured to do so by the school (lets face it I was a huge pain in the ass in school back then). BUT! what I have learned since then is that I never needed to be medicated into a mind numbing coma all i needed was a challenge and something to strive for! I find that when i know what the reason i am doing something i find that i excel and often work very hard to accomplish the task at hand. My mom took me off shortly after when she say that i had lost all of my personality and was no longer showing my imagination!
Any way getting back to the Tony thing and me being a shy guy. Those that know me now would NEVER say that about me. I am very out going and rarely afraid of any social event or activity. Along with Ortando's techniques and strategies that help teach you how to actually create change in your life. I simply decided in my life that i was sick and tired of being the shy guy and created some internal self talk and forced my self to be more outgoing and social. i forced my self to raise my hand and volunteer for those tear-ably scary "Come up to the front of the class and help me with this demonstration" situations. Bottom line i changed my way of thinking. Believing in myself for my self and not for anybody else. This was completely true because i truly had nobody to believe in me but myself. Now I actually thrive on my own fear! it is a strange thing to think about but if you do it makes sense. What scares you when you are trying to change something in your life is often what you would like to change. i was afraid to talk to the kids in my school so i just started talking to random people that i believed i would never see again and then that helped me to talk to people that i would see again. Then i could start talking to people that i liked. then I could start talking to people i respected. and then i could start talking to people i was afraid of. It has been totally rewarding and now It puts me head and shoulders above many others in making important business deals and getting jobs and networking.
All of this because most of the time I am afraid and thrive from it Funny huh? Believe me i am scared most of the time it is how you use it to your advantage rather than let you be consumed by it.
Well i am sick of typing and you are probably sick of reading. have fun out there! believe in yourself!
hello this is Spud. first time on this blog. I have been friends with Ortando and sokerbrain for some time now. I was reading about the tony robins thing and it reminded me about a time when I was in junior high and how I was a rather shy kid and how it really bummed me out that I had few friends (if any) and was VERY rarely included in any activities in school. I was "diagnosed" with ADD when i was in grade school because a teacher that didn't get along with me wanted me to be on drugs to get me to calm down and focus like the "other" kids. I was put on drugs a while later when my mom was heavily pressured to do so by the school (lets face it I was a huge pain in the ass in school back then). BUT! what I have learned since then is that I never needed to be medicated into a mind numbing coma all i needed was a challenge and something to strive for! I find that when i know what the reason i am doing something i find that i excel and often work very hard to accomplish the task at hand. My mom took me off shortly after when she say that i had lost all of my personality and was no longer showing my imagination!
Any way getting back to the Tony thing and me being a shy guy. Those that know me now would NEVER say that about me. I am very out going and rarely afraid of any social event or activity. Along with Ortando's techniques and strategies that help teach you how to actually create change in your life. I simply decided in my life that i was sick and tired of being the shy guy and created some internal self talk and forced my self to be more outgoing and social. i forced my self to raise my hand and volunteer for those tear-ably scary "Come up to the front of the class and help me with this demonstration" situations. Bottom line i changed my way of thinking. Believing in myself for my self and not for anybody else. This was completely true because i truly had nobody to believe in me but myself. Now I actually thrive on my own fear! it is a strange thing to think about but if you do it makes sense. What scares you when you are trying to change something in your life is often what you would like to change. i was afraid to talk to the kids in my school so i just started talking to random people that i believed i would never see again and then that helped me to talk to people that i would see again. Then i could start talking to people that i liked. then I could start talking to people i respected. and then i could start talking to people i was afraid of. It has been totally rewarding and now It puts me head and shoulders above many others in making important business deals and getting jobs and networking.
All of this because most of the time I am afraid and thrive from it Funny huh? Believe me i am scared most of the time it is how you use it to your advantage rather than let you be consumed by it.
Well i am sick of typing and you are probably sick of reading. have fun out there! believe in yourself!
Invitation to all to comment on the blog
Ortando here. This post is to announce that all readers are now eligible to contribute to Ortando's Thoughts blog and Nicholas and I look forward to hearing from you about AD/HD/LD stratigies, concepts and insights.
Since our last post, I have been preparing to initiate "Ortando Tribal Counsel" model starting here in Oregon. The Counsel will be local to the area in which it is started and will include AD/HD/LD adults meeting to discuss AD/HD/LD ideas with a goal of having the members then go and teach others "how to be" in the Ortando & Son way (Ortando's Way).
Just a side comment that I would like for the readers to consider visiting Ortando.com, as well as Tony Robbins.com. Tony Robbins new NBC television series Breakthrough will air in January 2010 I believe and is well worth the time to view. In a previous note, I mentioned that as a Tony Robbins "family member" I had the privalege of attending the filming of the finales of the first 4 episodes of the show. It was awesome! So look for it on your NBC channel in January.
Ortando thought of the day: If you are a tribe member, (someone who experiences AD/HD/LD), and you find that there is a part of you that "doesn't like yourself", firstly acknowledge and thank that part of you for doing that as a part that (however painfully) is trying to help you. Ask that part "what are you doing in not liking me that is trying to help me?", and listen to what comes up. Perhaps it is to keep you safe, stop you from growth because you might get hurt of dissapointed. Whatever it is, acknowledge and thank that part of you and then ask it if it knows that in its efforts to help you that it is actually not making your life better globally, and see what comes up. Often that part will say: "Yea I know I'm holding (__you) back, and I'm not gonna stop because (__you) (fill in the blank...might get hurt, be dissapointed...etc.) Tell that part that it is "too strong" and to trust you and that all of you is ready to go forward and ask it if it would be willing to modify its behavior, partially allow you to grow, move forward... if... you promise to honor its intentions to keep you safe and ok. Then see what it says. Often your part will say "yes". Repeat this proceedure if you find yourself with "parts" that are not aligned will you goals in life.
Next time we'll talk about GOALS for AD/HD/LD people, your hopes and dreams and how to increase the likelihood that you will attain them. By the way, I don't know you personally, but as far as your AD/HD/LD aspects of your brain... you are alright just the way you are, right here and right now. This is an emotional key to be open to learning how to be from fellow Tribe members. Take care Ortando.
Since our last post, I have been preparing to initiate "Ortando Tribal Counsel" model starting here in Oregon. The Counsel will be local to the area in which it is started and will include AD/HD/LD adults meeting to discuss AD/HD/LD ideas with a goal of having the members then go and teach others "how to be" in the Ortando & Son way (Ortando's Way).
Just a side comment that I would like for the readers to consider visiting Ortando.com, as well as Tony Robbins.com. Tony Robbins new NBC television series Breakthrough will air in January 2010 I believe and is well worth the time to view. In a previous note, I mentioned that as a Tony Robbins "family member" I had the privalege of attending the filming of the finales of the first 4 episodes of the show. It was awesome! So look for it on your NBC channel in January.
Ortando thought of the day: If you are a tribe member, (someone who experiences AD/HD/LD), and you find that there is a part of you that "doesn't like yourself", firstly acknowledge and thank that part of you for doing that as a part that (however painfully) is trying to help you. Ask that part "what are you doing in not liking me that is trying to help me?", and listen to what comes up. Perhaps it is to keep you safe, stop you from growth because you might get hurt of dissapointed. Whatever it is, acknowledge and thank that part of you and then ask it if it knows that in its efforts to help you that it is actually not making your life better globally, and see what comes up. Often that part will say: "Yea I know I'm holding (__you) back, and I'm not gonna stop because (__you) (fill in the blank...might get hurt, be dissapointed...etc.) Tell that part that it is "too strong" and to trust you and that all of you is ready to go forward and ask it if it would be willing to modify its behavior, partially allow you to grow, move forward... if... you promise to honor its intentions to keep you safe and ok. Then see what it says. Often your part will say "yes". Repeat this proceedure if you find yourself with "parts" that are not aligned will you goals in life.
Next time we'll talk about GOALS for AD/HD/LD people, your hopes and dreams and how to increase the likelihood that you will attain them. By the way, I don't know you personally, but as far as your AD/HD/LD aspects of your brain... you are alright just the way you are, right here and right now. This is an emotional key to be open to learning how to be from fellow Tribe members. Take care Ortando.
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